Suffering through the loss of a loved one is a deeply personal experience. So much so that experts caution about telling someone who recently experienced a loss “I know how you feel”. They strongly suggest against consoling them by telling them how you got through a loss. This can minimize a person’s pain or somehow suggest your pain is equal to theirs.
The fact is, all of us experience grief in slightly different ways. If you have recently experienced the loss of a loved one, however, there are some general suggestions that you can do to experience and move through the process in your own way. Here are ways to overcome the grief from a deceased loved one.
Give Yourself Permission to “Feel”
Many experiencing grief try to muscle through it, insulating or isolating themselves from their feelings. They will try to ignore their feelings either positive or negative. It can be helpful to allow yourself to feel while grieving. It may certainly lead to some tears but it can also bring back fond memories and smiles. It is normal to be emotional. Allow yourself the right to experience these emotions.
Accept or Seek Emotional Support
One of the major benefits of having a funeral and final services is the support it can offer a grieving person. Friends and family come together to offer support, and it should be accepted and even sought out. Take comfort in the support that is being shown. If that doesn’t seem to suffice, seek the help of a professional therapist or a support group.
Allow the Grieving Process to Proceed
Much has been studied and written about the grieving process and it is indeed a process. Fighting against the process can prolong it or make it more difficult to navigate. Understand that while your journey may be different than others, it is best to allow it to continue along its unique path. It doesn’t minimize your pain to know others have experienced something similar. You just need to flow through it at your own pace. Fighting it, however, can prolong the healing process.
We sometimes forget how resilient we can be through change. We get through school, get and change jobs and may even move to new cities. We get married, have children and perhaps grandchildren. They too, grow up, get married and life continues. All the while, we adjust, both through good and bad times and experiences. It is truly one of the amazing things about being human. We get through most of these changes without a second thought. Certainly, the death of a loved one may be one of the most significant events in your life, but you will prevail. It will be different, but life will go proceed.
Remind Yourself How Important Life Is
Death can serve as a reminder of how precious and important life is. It can be a shoulder-grabbing attention getter to live life fully and without inhibition. It is not easy during this dark period, but attempt to use it to live your own life to the fullest.
At Fares J. Radel Funeral Homes and Crematory, it has been our life’s work helping families throughout Greater Cincinnati get through these most difficult times. We have seen how age, circumstances and family dynamics all affect the grieving process. We have also been witness to how a well-thought, well-planned final service can help heal.
We would never presume to say we can make the process easier. We can assure you, however, our caring team will do our very best to provide comforting, respective final services that may help. When pre-planning or for a current need, we would be honored to serve you.