Losing a loved one close to the holidays, whether recently or years ago, can leave an emotional scar. It has the potential to change the holidays for those affected by a death. Is it possible to enjoy the holidays again after someone near and dear to you has passed during the season? Yes, it is, and here are some thoughts on how to do it.
Focus on Why the Holidays are Important to You
Odds are, in years past, the holidays have presented an opportunity to interact with a number of friends and family members you may not otherwise have had an opportunity to visit throughout the year.
If you enjoyed this part of the holidays, focus on that. Have you enjoyed cooking, baking, or making gifts? Focus on that. Do you enjoy watching holiday specials on TV or listening to Christmas tunes on the radio? Try to remember all the reasons you enjoy the holidays and make an effort to enjoy them. The holidays are a time to enjoy family, friends, and reenergize any religious beliefs too. Those are still here to enjoy.
Communicate Your Feelings
Feeling a little overwhelmed by the holidays? Communicate and even ask for help. There’s a built-in nostalgia regarding Christmas that can make us a bit melancholy. Take comfort in knowing most people experience this, whether they recently lost a loved one or not. It is just a deeply personal part of the holidays that we all experience. It can help to talk about it.
Don’t Over Indulge or Over Spend
Sometimes, in grief or sadness, we can tend to overcompensate with too much spending, eating, or drinking. This will usually only lead to some post-holiday regret or even depression. Keep your head up and focus on enjoying the holidays, but do so responsibly.
Find Ways to Honor the Loved
Rather than ignoring the loss of a loved one, make a point to recognize them. Leave a glass or a plate on the table. Hang an ornament with their picture on it on your tree. Include their names in a holiday toast. Many families find comfort in recognizing family members who have passed during the holidays.
Take Note of the Good Around You
Sure, you may feel a little lost and sad, but try to focus more on what is going well. Try to enjoy the beauty of the season and the effort those around you are putting into enjoying it. Absorb the smiles of children and hug just a little harder. Getting through the holidays after the loss of a loved one may not be easy, but it can be worth the effort.
The Fares J. Radel family has been so very proud to help the families of Southwest Ohio and Northern Kentucky through difficult times for generations. Yes, we understand that emotions are heightened throughout the holidays. We have learned that through patience, sensitivity, caring, and a willingness to listen, we can help. In that, we take honor and pride, especially this time of year.
If your family is looking for a home when the need for final services arises or if you need assistance in pre-planning, we invite you to reach out. Thanks for considering Fares J. Radel Funeral Homes and Crematory, and best wishes to you and yours.